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Six months later, life goes on

It's been six months and two days since Marya passed away. Life has changed a lot for me, some of it good and some bad. I find that each passing day has it's challenges and I'm often overcome by the sheer magnitude of my loss. I'm not certain of whom I can turn to for support and help.

You see, I don't want to burden my friends with my problems; they've got enough problems of their own, and I don't feel comfortable adding to their load. Besides, with some of them, I'm not sure of how much leeway I have. Perhaps they are tired of my woes, and just wish I would "get on with it". I don't know. I do know that some of my friends have begun to avoid me. I wish I could bring them back, but all I do is chase them further away. For what it's worth, I haven't heard anything from my relatives, and I have to make all the phone calls.

Three months on

It's been just over three months since Marya passed away. While the fabric of my life is starting to knit together, there are still huge gaping holes that won't go away soon. I shared my life with Marya (as did she with me) for 25 years (half of my life), and three months isnt nearly enough time to fill in the void that her passing left.

Youth Singers of Calgary

My friend Kathy's daughter is in the "Junior High" division of the Youth Singers of Calgary. Recently, they were in Toronto for a competition, and I managed to attend one of their performances.

The Marya Cummings Memorial Book Club

Marya passed away on March 25, and that's left me with a hole in my life. I now have a number of (somewhat distastefull but necessary) things to do, like taking care of her estate, and distributing her belongings. These tasks don't give me much direction or purpose; I'm just a caretaker to her memory now.

Marya Pitcher, 1954-2006


Surrounded by her family and friends, Marya passed away peacefully at 6:30p.m. at Toronto General Hospital on Saturday, March 25, 2006 to be with her daughter Anya in Heaven. March 25 would have been Anya's 18th birthday.

Beloved wife of 22 years to Lew. Loving daughter to Jim and Mary Cummings of Windsor. Cherished sister to Jim and his wife Francine, Ellen and her husband Garry, and Staci and her husband Paul. Aunt to Nicholas, Christopher and Rebecca.

Marya back in hospital

After a week of being out of the hospital, TGH re-admitted Marya to the transplant Stepdown unit. Home care wasn't very good (it was difficult to draw blood for the lab), and Marya's fever returned after a couple of days.

The transplant team aren't entirely certain whether the fever is from an infection or rejection, and are treating both.

Marya admitted to Toronto General Hospital

On Tuesday, January 31, Marya was admitted to Toronto General Hospital for treatment of an infection and fever. The doctors of the TGH Transplant clinic think that she contracted some lung infection over the Christmas holidays, and they have her on an intravenous antibiotic treatment. The prognosis is good.

Of course, this means that she's stuck in a hospital room for the next few weeks. If you want to contact her, she can be reached at the TGH Patient Enquiry line at 416-340-3131.

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